When I Stopped Practicing What I Preach ~ A Lesson in Self-Care
For thirty years I’ve told men what they need to hear about looking after themselves. This year, I forgot to listen to my own advice. I was running three jobs, carrying the guilt of stepping back, and quietly applying the same shame to myself that I hear from the men who sit across from me every week. The break wasn’t optional in the end ~ it was imperative to my own self-care. And in that recharge, something new was born: Spirit Warrior.
The Hamster Wheel — Why Men’s Thinking Harder Isn’t Working
Most men don’t realise they’re overthinking. It doesn’t look like panic or visible stress. It looks like hesitation, self-doubt, procrastination — and a 3am mind that won’t switch off. After 30 years of sitting with men I can tell you — the hamster wheel of thought is one of the most exhausting and least talked about things men carry. Here’s what’s actually happening inside — and how to step off.
Why Australian Men Don’t Ask For Help — And What It’s Really Costing Us
Only 37% of Australian men reach out for support when they need it.
That’s not a statistic about weakness. That’s a statistic about silence — and what it costs when two thirds of the men in this country carry their struggles completely alone.
After 30 years of sitting with men in the quiet room where real things finally get said — I’ve learned exactly what stops them. It’s not stubbornness. It’s not pride. It’s three things working together that most men have never had anyone name for them.
The conditioning that started before they were ten. The shame that makes silence feel safer than speaking. And simply not knowing where a door exists that feels built for them.
This post names all three — and what changes when a man finally walks through.
The Crisis of Masculinity — Finding Spirituality as a Man
Men give unconditional love to everyone they care about — but rarely to themselves. Spirituality may be the deepest form of healing available to men. Here’s why.