You’re Not Angry — You’re Suppressing Something Else
Emotional suppression in men rarely looks like suppression. It looks like anger. Most men who sit in this chair, after thirty years of doing this work, aren’t actually angry underneath. What looks like anger is usually emotional suppression wearing a louder coat — disappointment, helplessness, fear, or sadness that never got felt, so it comes […]
When I Stopped Practicing What I Preach ~ A Lesson in Self-Care
For thirty years I’ve told men what they need to hear about looking after themselves. This year, I forgot to listen to my own advice. I was running three jobs, carrying the guilt of stepping back, and quietly applying the same shame to myself that I hear from the men who sit across from me every week. The break wasn’t optional in the end ~ it was imperative to my own self-care. And in that recharge, something new was born: Spirit Warrior.
Is Shame Secretly Controlling Your Life?
Shame doesn’t announce itself. It just quietly runs the show ~ driving the anger, the distance, the never feeling good enough. Most men don’t even know it’s there, running underneath everything, until it’s named. Here’s what’s really going on beneath the surface, and how it starts to loosen its grip once you see it clearly.