Are You Carrying Shame That Was Never Yours?
Are You Carrying Shame That Was Never Yours? There’s a voice most of us carry. Not good enough. Too much. Unlovable. Defective. It shows up in the way you talk to yourself when you make a mistake. In the way you pull back from people who get too close. In the anger that comes out […]
What Were You Actually Feeling Right Before You Got Angry?
Someone cuts you off in traffic. A comment lands wrong. And before you’ve registered what you’re actually feeling, it’s already out as anger. Why anger became the only door left open for men, what’s usually underneath it, and how to start finding the second door.
You’re Sitting In The Cave. She’s Standing At The Walls.
There’s a flatness that sits in your chest some nights and you can’t quite name it. You’re sitting in the cave, and the people you love most are standing outside it. The only line that’s ever felt safe to use, what it’s actually costing your relationship, and the one small practice that starts walking you out.
It’s Not “I Did Something Bad.” It’s “I Am Something Bad.”
Your stomach drops. Your eyes go to the floor. That’s shame, and it’s not the same thing as guilt. Guilt says I did something bad – that’s manageable. Shame says I am something bad. Where it actually hides, and the one small first move that starts to loosen it.